Being Hard to Get

Ok, women, since childhood, we have been told, you should not be easy. Men like chase. Be hard to get. ' Men are like dogs, running after cars they do not want to enter'. ' They like sports, they like a challenge, be that challenge';  You get the point.

The question is, what about us. Its not easy to be the challenge. To hold back all the time. Does it not happen that you tend to just think and start living in your head. At each moment, you are just thinking- oh, how do I work on this situation such that - i can get a kind of reaction. Isn't this what is called manipulation?

Lets face it, to some women, this comes easy and to others- like me, this is the hardest thing to do. I am direct. I do things as I feel them. I can't say something, and mean something else. I just find it hard to read between lines.. find the hidden meaning. Its fun analysing the situations, but they are exhausting. And most of the times, lead no where.

I recently read somewhere, being hard to get does not mean to resist or say 'NO' or postpone. It means, be in control of your feeling. Be aware of what you are, where you are and accept it. Value yourself. Be the center of what you want. Do things at your terms and let that be known. Have that inner confidence.

Somebody, really needs to get into your mindspace, which is currently focused on yourself, your needs. That person is competing against your needs/ wants and wants you to make space for him/ her. You are engaging in things that are fun - as you perceive them. You are not holding yourself back. You are liking what you are doing and you are fun to be around. But, you are still hard to get, because you are focusing on yourself- your mindspace has you at its centre.

So, ladies, my matra, do as you like; Don't be hard to get for the sake of it and not enjoy life. Truly appreciate your self, and be the centre of your universe. By doing so, atleast i believe, one will live it, yet follow the rules if you so please!!