Khao piyo khisko!
I remember a time when somebody walked into a wedding late in the evening, had a 'shagan' ka lifafa in her hand. I greeted her near the gate and she said.... have you gone on stage and met the bride and groom. She said, arre... lets do the payment for the food we are going to eat. Chalo, milte hain, payment karte hain and phir khiskte hain.
It was an interesting perspective. I go to weddings to meet people, dress up, if i know the bride and groom well- tease them, have fun. Its a relaxed mode. Typically, when the wedding is going on, friends and family will be circled around a table, to meet, tease. Rampant matchmaking is another interesting activity going on. Wedding is a place where girls are spotted, flirtations are in the air. Truly, love is in the air. In a three - four day event, people tend to get to know each other. New relationships are formed. A few relationships may sour too. Old relationships get consolidated.
Its always the part after the event, when people are just hanging.. with nothing much to do. Every body is looking good, they are on a high, food is abundant and you just relax and chill in the festive atmosphere the bride and grooms family have created for you.
There are times, when people go to a wedding to show their face - to be seen or as an obligation. I often wonder, whats the point of such a visit. The fact that you are just 'visiting' the wedding and not really 'participating' is that you have been invited as an obligation. You dress up, travel all the way from where you are just to do a payment and eat dinner. How about just going for dinner on your own.
Wonder, why do we have to keep up with our presence. I could never understand going to an event where I just have to 'show my face' and like it or not, I do that a lot.
I remember a time when somebody walked into a wedding late in the evening, had a 'shagan' ka lifafa in her hand. I greeted her near the gate and she said.... have you gone on stage and met the bride and groom. She said, arre... lets do the payment for the food we are going to eat. Chalo, milte hain, payment karte hain and phir khiskte hain.
It was an interesting perspective. I go to weddings to meet people, dress up, if i know the bride and groom well- tease them, have fun. Its a relaxed mode. Typically, when the wedding is going on, friends and family will be circled around a table, to meet, tease. Rampant matchmaking is another interesting activity going on. Wedding is a place where girls are spotted, flirtations are in the air. Truly, love is in the air. In a three - four day event, people tend to get to know each other. New relationships are formed. A few relationships may sour too. Old relationships get consolidated.
Its always the part after the event, when people are just hanging.. with nothing much to do. Every body is looking good, they are on a high, food is abundant and you just relax and chill in the festive atmosphere the bride and grooms family have created for you.
There are times, when people go to a wedding to show their face - to be seen or as an obligation. I often wonder, whats the point of such a visit. The fact that you are just 'visiting' the wedding and not really 'participating' is that you have been invited as an obligation. You dress up, travel all the way from where you are just to do a payment and eat dinner. How about just going for dinner on your own.
Wonder, why do we have to keep up with our presence. I could never understand going to an event where I just have to 'show my face' and like it or not, I do that a lot.
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