Good daughters 1

Life is a series of experiences and its left upto you in which order you experience them

The biggest problem in life is often the problems we did not anticipate- Martin Luthur King Jr.

Maya always led a planned life.  She  never planned to be where she is today. But is sort of worked out well for her.. She believes, life is a series of experiences, and damn….who cares in which order you have them.

Life did teach her a lot of lessons. At the age of 30, seeing her life not moving the ways she planned, this is what her conculsion was.

Like any girl her age, when growing up in a upper middle class, well educated and well read, non-traditional yet conservative Indian family, she lived in a world of fairly tale with a twist. While she was waiting for her prince charming, she decided to make a career for herself. But ofcourse, this will be secondary. As mother nature has defined the roles of the male and the female of the species, she wanted to take the role of a nurturer. She never wanted to be the provider, but yes, was mindful of the fact that she did not want to ask her man to provide for her needs to splurge. Giving credit to her high scores at school, her love for the arts and the university selection process, she managed to secure a seat in one of the most prestigious design schools in India. Unlike a lot of people who claim to know what they want in their life from profession, she was just going with the flow. She knew she liked something and decided to pursue it because it came easy. She was unsure what it meant at that time and where it would lead in long run. She was the first design student in her family, she got into a school on her merit and the fee was not that high. Her parents and family were happy because every body believed that she will be happy.. They wanted her to be an independent woman when she grew up, and this will meet their goal. This was the best up-bringing and advise they could give their daughter- be independent.

Maya, was not an idealist who wanted to change the world, but like any college student, just a person who wanted to have some good time, learn, be proud of her –self, find something she enjoyed doing. Life was still very exciting and there was tons to do. She was just strating out. Little did she know, that she was now embarking on a journey to adulthood.

Considered a very sorted child, Maya was little prepared for life. Like most of other people her age, she was exploring- hoping that exploration will end soon. She is now 30 and the quest is still on.

Have you ever looked at pictures of your friends and said, that is what I wanted my life to be.  And then she woke up!

She will study, have a profession and as soon as she has a husband and family, they will be her world. She imagined living in a house with a garden, looking out to the water outside. The house which had warm wooden floors, original contemporary art from artist frinds of her. Green palm plans and bright yellow tulips on a solid oak dining table. Looking out of the tall glass doors was this manicured garden. At the end of the green grass were these steps which went down to the beach outside. And then there was water. This was the picture of the perfect house Maya had in her mind. She always saw herself wearing lacy white clothes – which were sophisticate sexy. Her man was this cool confident casual guy, who was in control of her.

 The biggest problem with her life were the problems she never anticipated.  She had plans for life but life had plans for her.