I am back from a hiatus! Yes, let us relive the days of Shaadi Mubarak.
In my earlier blogs, I spoke about the idea of why get married? I argued, you being the top priority.
In a conversation with a friend, she pointed out, the reason to get married is to find your spiritual partner- who will be your mirror and help you grow. This will be that one person, who will be there with you, (hopefully) every day, and will help you reflect on what you do, how you do and find a reason to grow, improve, do better.
This is fascinating. This gives a whole new meaning to marriages, and the a view of what you are looking for.
On a tangent, I am wondering, what is this fascination to GROW in our generation. Why do we always are itching to grow. Some of the best times I recall in my life was as a child, when I was taken care of, and not bothered about anything in the world. (YES, laugh it out, I know, you did not mean physical growth!).
But seriously, why are we all so fascinated to know.
Isn't it hard enough to accept ourselves, the way we are today, that we are pushing our selves for growth, move out of today into tomorrow, to look at future. When will we learn to live in today and not bother about tomorrow. Should not marriages be about finding someone to enjoy the moment you have right now, to share that space, to share that time. Growth will happen, it is natural. The world moves, the universe moves, the earth revolves. But, if we do not make today happy, how will we make tomorrow better. Find a partner - be in a marriage to make your today 'happier'. If you are happy today, make it even better.
You decide, how you will reach there. Weather it is someone else who will help you become happier or you yourself. But, whatever you do and if you decide to get married, don't give up. Like any relationship. this require nurturing, Do not make this into a ego match, where one is better than the other. Don't try to grow (grow on each others nerves!). Just simply try to BE.
BE Shaadi Mubarak.
In a conversation with a friend, she pointed out, the reason to get married is to find your spiritual partner- who will be your mirror and help you grow. This will be that one person, who will be there with you, (hopefully) every day, and will help you reflect on what you do, how you do and find a reason to grow, improve, do better.
This is fascinating. This gives a whole new meaning to marriages, and the a view of what you are looking for.
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| Marriage Day (Photo credit: Fikra) |
But seriously, why are we all so fascinated to know.
Isn't it hard enough to accept ourselves, the way we are today, that we are pushing our selves for growth, move out of today into tomorrow, to look at future. When will we learn to live in today and not bother about tomorrow. Should not marriages be about finding someone to enjoy the moment you have right now, to share that space, to share that time. Growth will happen, it is natural. The world moves, the universe moves, the earth revolves. But, if we do not make today happy, how will we make tomorrow better. Find a partner - be in a marriage to make your today 'happier'. If you are happy today, make it even better.
You decide, how you will reach there. Weather it is someone else who will help you become happier or you yourself. But, whatever you do and if you decide to get married, don't give up. Like any relationship. this require nurturing, Do not make this into a ego match, where one is better than the other. Don't try to grow (grow on each others nerves!). Just simply try to BE.
BE Shaadi Mubarak.
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